Another list: Ten signs that you have a true friend….
1. She can’t help but smile when doing tai chi to Gershwin’s “Rhapsody in Blue” – because it’s she thinks it’s perfect in the same unexpected way that you do.
2. She meets you at the gym because she knows that your bravery ended with asking if lifting weights would be a good idea for you.
3. She is just as excited as you are when your kid does something that is worth bragging about — and she lets you brag about it — and it doesn’t even have to be a really big something that your kid did.
4. She reads your blog and posts comments or mentions it in conversation so that you know that she reads it.
5. She’ll act like it’s no big deal if you are bald (but understands how you really feel about it and thinks it’s just as funny as you do when people tell you that you look good without any hair), or she will show up on your back porch with clippers when loosing your hair by the handfull gets too hard, or she will go ask the nurse for tweezers to pull out a stray ingrown hair from the back of your head that is making you crazy after your mastectomy, or she’ll find funky earrings that you never would have chosen but are perfect for creating a new look.
6. She’ll make going to chemotherapy fun or she’ll be waiting in front of your house with delicious food when you get home from chemo.
7. She’ll encourage you to make a list of things that you want to do, and then encourage you to do them, and she’ll make her own list, too, and she’ll help you to meet your goals (even those you meant but didn’t outright state) and let you be part of meeting the goals on her list.
8. She’ll think that your name should be submitted in an everyday hero contest, and not even because you had cancer, and she won’t be surprised if they pick you.
9. She thinks you are both a true friend and a good writer.
10. She loves to chat over a good cuppa about things that are really important or nothing at all.
It’s friendship, friendship, just a perfect blendship.
When other friendships have been forgate,
Ours will still be great.
Lah-dle-ah-dle-ah-dle, chuck, chuck, chuck.
(Friendship, words and music by Cole Porter, made famous by Ethel and Lucy)